The world has gotten lazy.
Socially lazy that is. I just finished reading an article (Here, if you want to read it too) about how the world is going to hell and it’s because no one is actually working on the problems, and that all we’re doing is yelling at each other.
I have to agree.
Over the last few months I’ve noticed that people are getting more and more selfish. We see that we’re unhappy but instead of actually doing what needs to be done about it, we turn to external things; like makeup, or surgery, or blaming others for us not having what we think we want or need to be happy. We get mad because someone said this or that, and it didn’t match up with what we believe. Or we’re getting mad because someone said some uncharitable thing about some minority group we’re not a part of, but we want to be MAD about something, so we’ll find any fucking reason to be pissed, if not for ourselves then for someone else who probably doesn’t CARE that someone made a joke at their expense.
But the PROBLEM is that we’re not diagnosing WHY we’re not happy.
The PROBLEM, at it’s root, is that we’ve thoroughly LIED to ourselves. We’re all supposed to be rich and famous without having to work for it. We’re supposed to have the bodies of gods by following 1 weird rule. We’re supposed to be PERFECT.
The PROBLEM is that we’re not perfect. And everyone’s pissed about it.
I’m so tired of seeing gorgeous people walk around with their shoulders slumped and heads down, DEFEATED before they even put up a fight and realized how lovely they are. I’m tired of hearing people say crap about “I suck at x, y, and z, because I tried it once.” and “Oh, I could never do that even though I’ve never tried it! You’re so much more talented than I am!”
And I’m so tired of the HATE!
It’s so EASY to hate. It takes no mental power at all to hate someone. We can all find reasons to hate something, from the color it is, to how it tastes, or smells, or speaks, or dresses. Or to just be careless in what we say and drag someone down just because we feel like shit and it doesn’t matter who we hurt because obviously the world should know we’re unhappy. Because if we don’t make everyone else around us as unhappy as we are then no one will know we’re unhappy. And that’s selfish.
But it takes observational powers to LIKE someone. Or (of all the crazy things) LOVE someone you don’t know. It takes time and attention away from minding our own woes to tell some random person that their dress is pretty, or that it matches the color of their eyes. Which is why I said that the world has gotten socially LAZY and selfish. Now, I’m sure people are thinking I’m talking out my butt with this, but I’ve hugged complete strangers before, because they looked like they needed it. I tell people I don’t know that they look lovely. I SMILE at people I don’t know, and hold doors, and help if someone needs it. And it amazes me the change that happens when someone receives positive attention. They smile, and show the world how beautiful they are.
This Christmas season, give the gift of your ATTENTION to someone.
Especially a child. It may be annoying, but they’re the future and teaching them to pay attention to others is the first step in stopping the hate.
Let’s teach our children that they aren’t perfect and that’s OKAY. Own up to your mistakes, but don’t let it consume you that you messed up. Accept that there ARE winners and losers, and at the same time, not EVERYTHING is a competition. But most of all, teach children to love. Both themselves and others. No matter what they believe, yelling and arguing doesn’t fix problems. Yelling doesn’t make us feel ANY better about ourselves.